After a long, hard day, you finally have your partner alone, and you have decided you are going to make her orgasm like never before. That’s great! But maybe she’s had trouble orgasming, or you have had a tough time helping her in the past. Maybe you are not exactly sure what to do.
It typically takes more time to make her orgasm than to make him, remember! It’s especially tricky for women with medical issues such as menopause (which can cause dryness or insensitivity), low blood flow to the genitals, or women who previously had a hysterectomy. For many women, it is just a matter of getting her in the right mood and hitting the right spot! Here are some tips on how to make her orgasm.
Foreplay: It has been said thousands of times, because it is true! Never skip over foreplay, especially if you want to make her orgasm. Foreplay raises her arousal, makes her naturally wetter and tenses up her muscles, which contributes to the climax. Start slow with kissing and caressing, and then move to fingering or performing oral sex to get her really excited. If you forgo the foreplay and go straight to intercourse, her arousal will likely be low and therefore she will be less likely to climax.
Follow Her Lead: When you want to make her orgasm, you have to focus on her body movements and the sounds she is making. Let her guide you to the orgasm! If she becomes quieter or less responsive and is not moving with you, it is a sign that you may want to do something differently.
Try changing speeds or positions. If she is moaning, tugging on you and moving around a lot, it is a sign that she likes what you are doing! Keep it up, unless she tells you otherwise. Her body language is a powerful indicator if what she likes and you will be able to tell if you are driving her crazy. The more excited she gets, the closer she will be to her orgasm!
Clitoral Stimulation: Most women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. The clitoris is incredibly sensitive and can be the focal point of amazing sensations when stimulated properly. Try rubbing her clit while fingering her or using a toy. If you want to rub her while simultaneously having intercourse, it may help to put her on top so you have full use of your hands. You can also stimulate this hotspot by performing oral. If you know your partner needs clitoral stimulation to climax, make sure you give it plenty of attention!
The G-Spot: As stated before, most women need clitoral stimulation to climax. Some women can with only vaginal stimulation, or more specifically, G-spot stimulation. The G-spot is an especially sensitive spot inside the vagina. It is located a few inches in on the upper vaginal wall. It is possible to stimulate it using your fingers or a toy during foreplay or stimulating it during intercourse. If you cannot locate her G-spot or it is not enough to give her an orgasm, try adding clitoral stimulation.
Do What She Likes: To give her an orgasm, you must be completely selfless and give her what she wants. One of the simplest things you can do is get into her favorite position, but there are other things you can do in addition to that. What makes her shutter with pleasure? Whatever it is, try it! All women are different, so find out what arouses your partner the most and use it when giving her an orgasm.
Since all women are different and like different things, it is good to know various ways to make your partner orgasm. Start off by getting her aroused through foreplay and stimulate her clitoris and/or G-spot during intercourse.
Do all of her favorite things and pay attention her body language! It may help to remember the techniques that worked best for your partner for future encounters. Remember that women typically take a while to reach their climax. It is just a matter of learning what sends her over the edge!